Turn your sex life on

Sometimes your sex life needs fine-tuning. Get your revs here

Set the scene

Make sure you're not interrupted by turning off all phones and drawing the curtains. While you're at it, turn up the heating, get the candles out and prepare romantic CDs. "You might feel cheesy, but that'll wear off very quickly," says sex therapist Phillip Hodson.

Hold back

Don't dive straight in if you want to impress. "Test yourself and see how long you can hold back for, while kissing and massaging her," Hodson advises. And that means focusing on non genital places like the arms, legs, breasts and neck. Feel free to tease her by kissing all around the genitals. Hers.

Say it loud

There's a biological connection between loud noise and sex. A small part of your ear called the sacculus is stimulated by loud noises and sends a signal to your brain's pleasure centre. So, instead of whispering sweet nothings, say them nice and loud.

Use your fingers

When stroking your partner, don't move up and down her body in straight lines. "Use wavy lines and irregular strokes so the nerves haven't got a clue what's going to happen next and will become much more excited," says Lou Paget, author of How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure.

Get on top

When touching her breasts, don't just go for the nipple. Scientists from Vienna University blindfolded 150 women and pricked their breasts with pins. They found that the upper breast (from nine o'clock to three o'clock) is the most sensitive area. Surprisingly, the nipple itself was the least sensitive part.

Switch positions

If you're having trouble holding back the floodwaters, move around.

A recent study from the University of New Brunswick in the US found that men who had greater ejaculatory control often changed positions during sex. So work your way through 'The Kama Sutra', or try the last page of this article.

Float like a butterfly

Here's how to give her the ultimate oral thrill. Stroke her clitoris with long then short strokes until she's 80% 'there'. Next, with circular motions, stimulate the outside of it with your tongue until she1s back to 50% there, at which point you slip your index finger into her vagina and tap two inches inside the front wall. Keep going.